The Psychology of Hating the Police!
Why do people hate the Police so much?
I was once told by a police officer,
I don’t know why we are hated so much? We are only doing our job, he quipped! I thought, it’s because people just hate power and authority over them – period. People hate it with a passion.
Yes, there may be many justified reasons as to why people hate the police as there are people who respect and like them.
In many cases people have personally experienced police brutality and bullying and fatal shootings recently reported in the news.
Some people have real good reasons to hate the police and some do not.
But it is the WHY, that must be answered.
There are stories all over social media and the news on police killings, brutality, corruption to name just a few.
There are hundreds of thousands of posts all over the net about the negative side of the police force all over the world and how people really feel about them.
Whether you like the police or hate them, they are essential for our everyday safety and security as citizens of any state or country.
This page is to neither support the police or to reject them nor is it to support the people that like or hate them but simply to explain SOME of the psychology around police authority and why it has such a negative effect on people especially those who do not support or even hate the police.
Without the police we would have anarchy and lawlessness on the streets. Your life would be in threat daily and you would not be able to live a safe and secure life and nor would your family. The police are essential to keep us all in check and keep all laws and orders in place whether we like or agree with those rules or not, we are bound by them and anyone who is non compliant will receive a form of punishment such as imprisonment or penalties of one kind or another.
People who dislike or hate the police including those who will criticise and abuse them will most often call upon them when they are needed, which is hypocritical and contradictory to the behaviour or opinions previously expressed.
People who hate the police and abuse them will often contact them for assistance when they are affected by crime themselves even though they may have a criminal background. So what we’re looking at here is why do so many people hate the police? When they are there to serve and protect us to some extent.
Excluding people, who have actually had justifiably bad or unfair treatment or experiences, is it the police that are actually hated or is it the uniform, the authority, the control and power that affect certain people who have no real reason to hate the police?
If you personally hate the police, and when you think about them, do you have strong feelings of dislike or anger but don’t know why you feel that way?
Do you just put that down to an incident in the past? Is that what really justifies your dislike or hatred of the police? When you were in the wrong and broke the law and the police were just doing their job the same way you would expect them to carry it out if your parents or family member’s home was burgled etc.
For most people who hate the police, the psychology that is at work is most often about the power and authority that the police represent over us all and not the actual person wearing the uniform, however that person then becomes a target for your hate and or abuse.
Let’s take the example of someone who is routinely stopped in their car for either a justified suspect check or just simply a random check.
Someone who has a strong dislike of the police is driving along in their car in a normal manner and for whatever reason, let’s assume there are none, one or two police officers pull the car over.
The first thing they will most often do is greet the person in the car with a reasonable degree of friendliness and respect and will usually show a pleasant manner such as, How you today Sir? Nothing to worry about, this is just a routine stop check.
It is at this point the stopped person will start to express negativity towards that police officer just for the fact that 1, they have been stopped, 2 they don’t like them and 3 they are now being asked simple questions.
The question is why is this person becoming so negative towards that police officer when that police officer is just simply or pleasantly asking for identification at that stage only.
It is for some people the power and authority that police officer represents. The person being stopped is now being met with authority and it is this authority that is causing the resistance or the problem in them, it is this that is now stirring in them.
One of the worst things you can do at this point is to start becoming negative or awkward with that police officer. If you do, then all you will achieve is to help enhance or accelerate that or any police officers need to express more power and authority upon you or over you.
In most cases you will not get a rise out of that police officer the way you may expect in others, they won’t respond back like for like.
In other words if you become awkward when there really is no justified reason to become awkward other than what you were feeling at that time then you will make the situation worse for yourself by making that police officer become more of a police officer.
Most police officers if not all of them have a very natural and profound ability for detecting BS or attitude in people while standing before them.
Police officers in general are very cute and sensitive or highly vigilant and perceptive of people’s negative attitude towards them and the way they will deal with that is instantly become calmer and more controlled by becoming more of an authority over you.
In other words you are making them treat you worse with more of the thing you hate, you are making them treat you with more power and authority and the more lippy and mouthy you become, the more super controlled they become back.
You are giving them more power, you are giving them more authority and you are giving them more reason to exercise that authority and power over you.
Okay, the police officer may not see it as power and authority over you at that time. It will just be a case of that police officer digging their heels in deeper and conducting himself stronger in the direction of what a police officer ultimately does when he is faced with adversity, awkwardness, threats or difficulty.
By becoming difficult and arguing and justifying your shallow reasons you are putting a police officer in a position of more and more power and authority over to you. And remember that police officer became a police officer originally for many reasons and one of them reasons was to exercise a higher position over other people for mainly the right reasons such as instilling the law and exercising laws to the best of their ability.
One of several reasons why a person becomes a police officer in the first place greatly involves a NEED to acquire a position of power and control. Most police officers psychology is about that.
This is not a criticism of any police officer; this is simply a draft overview, a rough outline on certain parts of a police officer’s thinking.
Hating the police may stem back to other authority figures and situations you’ve experienced in your life which you are not going to be able to recall.
Is not the large painful events in your life that are causing the problems, it’s the scrappy little pieces which surround them, that which come off it and affect you the most.
It is not the experience, but what comes off an experience such as how you interpret that experience that develops feelings and thoughts or behaviour leading to hate. It is never direct but mostly transferred or cross wired that you gain your views or beliefs.
As soon as you are faced by a police officer such as being stopped in your car and you start reacting negatively towards their presence, then you are in truth digging yourself a hole and for most of the time you will become the loser in that battle.
In most cases the police officer will have the final say in one form or another. He understands you more than you understand him.
He knows your state instantly.
Why would you want to give that over?
Let’s now look at this, another way.
If you get stopped by a police officer and as already outlined, you have a dislike or hatred for that police officer or what they represent then do this: Become completely controlled and calm, be pleasant, cooperative and obedient along with giving out of nothing and remaining completely still and quiet and speak only when you’re spoken to.
If you adopt this stance and remain totally controlled and calm throughout the entire stop and check, giving out no attitude or reactions whatsoever then you will take away the power and authority from that police officer within a few minutes.
By remaining totally calm and controlled and revealing no emotion or body language, you will put that police officer out of sync, you will put a police officer out of this authority zone because he will not picking up on your reactions, nerves or fears to support or feed his role.
Most police officers are highly vigilant and perceptive, very perceptive and intelligence, more than you know and they can spot the slightest change in mood and manner in you. Therefore they will detect instantly that they are not picking up the usual reactions which they get from EVERYBODY and it will offset them, it will put them off canter and for some it will produce a sense of powerlessness, like the carpet has been pulled from under their feet. They won’t like it.
For example, try agreeing with a critic, it takes the wind out of their sales because it is not what they expect or want from you.
Think about that!
Some police officers will be affected by this but most will just notice your position of non reaction and plod on to match it.
In other words they will find it difficult to read you, they will find it difficult to decipher where you’re at and this will produce in most cases, but not all, a pleasant and friendly manner from them.
And the more non reactive you become, the more difficult it is for that police officer to read you, the more positive they will become towards you because they will regain their control by removing all traces of their power and authority over you.
This is because the more power and authority they now put your way, the more powerless they will start to feel if you are non reactive to their role.
This absolutely will happen but to what extent is down to each individual police officer and their own emotional, personal and psychological structure or make up.
I’m absolutely not suggesting that anyone plays mind games with police officers and nor is about oneupmanship or trying to score points over anyone else (honest).
This is just a clear examination and interpretation of power and authority meeting you, Mr Nobody and using this example of being stopped over by the police whether that is driving your car or walking the street.
Do yourself a favour, learn and understand reverse psychology because this is reverse psychology at work, if you can put it into practice.
Try it the next time you’re faced with the presence of a police officer and you will be quite astounded at how positive and pleasant that police officer will INCREASE towards you. They will never admit it but they hate it when they cannot see your anxious, nervous, guilty BS, argumentative behaviour.
Don’t get mad, get smart and get even!
Another example would be as follows:
Imagine you’re driving along in your car and you’ve exceeded the speed limit but it is not severe, it’s just in the red zone maybe 15 or 20 miles an hour over the limit and you are now in a situation where the police officers discretion determines the outcome of your speeding sin.
If you start expressing attitude or negativity in any way, the police officer will react hard towards you. Let’s face it, most people give the police a hard time and they are sick of it and thus act and react to you accordingly and in most cases you propagate what you get.
Let’s assume you have now gone 15 or 20 miles an hour over the speed limit and you immediately hold your hands up and admit that you’re in the wrong and you apologise without any delay and that you are foolish for your actions and you get everything you deserve and completely accept the penalty points or the fine and you fully express the view that you were completely distracted or you’ve got your mind on other things and you’ve no excuse, you’re in the wrong.
Can you see what this will do?
Apart from with the odd police officer, most others will let you off because you have just taken away from them a situation where they cannot exercise their power and authority over you for breaking that law.
They cannot exercise their power and authority over you now. You are now in a neutral position as regards their power delivery. How can they deliver power of authority when you are agreeing to it.
You are not receptive, you not susceptible to any punishment or criticism because you’re already admitting you’re in the wrong, in most cases the police officer will regain his power and control by letting you off. That is where he will end up, letting you off gives him the power back if it is sensed that he is losing the ground he stands on. Be nice and be in the wrong and you will be let off!
By letting you off, he is now regaining his power and control; he is now regaining his authority. He is showing you he has the power and control and the decision, the freedom and choice to let you go. Remember the film Schindlers list?
Ultimately anyone can do this.
And yes there are going to be some police officers who are not going to give a damn about any of this and they’re going to be negative and unpleasant towards you no matter what. But that’s only a small percent and I would say a good 90% of police officers fit into this first descriptive profile.
In layman’s terms, if you treat the police officer nicely, admit your sin and don’t be negative, he might just let you off. That would be a simple way of putting it.
Remember, what is at the heart of any police officer and that is his NEED to express power and authority, possibly the ultimate kind, in his mind anyway.
He or she has a law given power and freedom to demonstrate that power and authority with you in accordance with the law, towards you or over you in the best way that they see fit, as it suits them.
If you don’t mess up this natural process, you can change and alter the outcome just by understanding the basics of their psychology and most importantly your own psychology. The same also goes for other people in power and authority that you have to comply with or abide by. By changing your position such as what is expected of you, you will change their position or stance or the way they approach you or react to you.
No matter how many times this is said, some people will read this but just will not understand reverse psychology. You will either get it or you won’t get it.
A lot of women naturally understand this very process and if they’ve got it, they usually flaunt it with hair flicks and flutters of eyelashes and sweet words and to some extent it works. The next time you’re stopped by a police officer, don’t try and verbally challenge them with your rants and swears or you will end up lying face down in the gutter on the rain soaked floor, with a knee in your back. Is that a power you think the police are scared of from you?
Stop being a FOOL and get it together. Be smart!
Obviously this is not going to apply if you have committed a serious crime, I’m talking about petty little discrepancies or just a simple stop and check where people start sounding off over nothing.
You will NOT notice the word respect or respectfully used in this page anywhere, because you can carry out all of this without having to respect any police officer.
Just act it!
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