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Coping with the Loss of your Pet

Q: How do people cope with the loss of a pet?

A: Coping starts with recognising that the grief is real and allowing yourself to mourn, talking with others who understand and gently rebuilding routine can help the pain soften over time.

Why is it so difficult to just get another puppy dog and start again?

For some people, getting another puppy after a dog dies feels natural and even healing. The love, routine and sense of purpose returns as you heal the loss feelings. The grief has somewhere to now go instead of turning inwards.

This does not in any way mean the dog who died mattered less, although many do think this. It means that the bond with dogs as a companion or soul mate is bigger than one lifetime. A new puppy does not replace the old dog; but creates a new relationship that stands on brand new ground.

All that pain, hurt and loss of your dog and at the same time there is another puppy out there now, just waiting to receive all that love you have lost. You can still feel the loss and grief combined with your love, channelled into another puppy and it is so therapeutic and healing and not disloyal to you dead dog or pet.

For some, that step feels impossible, one step too far. Loyalty gets tangled up with grief and the idea of a new puppy feels like betrayal as if loving again somehow erases all the value of your recent deceased pet.

There is guilt too and a sense that moving on too quickly means the loss was not honoured properly. That wall is strong, even when the mind knows the dog is gone forever and not coming back. The irony is that dogs themselves do not think like this. They live in the moment, love freely and do not keep emotional scores or even care. If they could speak, they would probably encourage you to open the door again to another and fill the house with new puppy life and stop suffering on their behalf.

Well, they would, wouldn’t they? Would you argue against this? Would you think that your dog or pet would say no, I want you to constantly be mourning and crying my loss. Do you think for a moment your dog would ever do that or think that?

Your answer to this question should be your guide on how you move forward. Because most people would know their pet or dog would say – go and put your heart out into a new puppy and stop this sadness and weeping.

Losing a pet, especially a dog or a cat can knock the ground out from under you and many people could benefit from undertaking a pet loss counselling course which will help with mental health and wellbeing.

You know it is coming one day. You know they do not live as long as we do. But knowing that does nothing to lessen it when it happens and it will happen. The house feels wrong, the quiet feels heavy and habits you built with them, without thinking suddenly have gone.

A dog or a cat is not just an animal that lived in your home, they were part of your daily vibe. They were there when you woke up, when you came home, when you were low and did not want to talk. They listened without judging and they stayed close without asking for nothing but a stroke on the back or neck massage. Losing that hurts like hell.

After a loss, many people feel a strange mix of emotions. Sadness is obvious but there can also be guilt, anger, numbness and even relief if your dog or pet had been suffering.

None of these feelings mean you loved them any less, that is what needs to sink in. They mean you cared deeply and you are trying to adjust to a sudden change.

The empty dog spaces in your home are what hurts most. The unused food bowl, the lead by the door, the spot on the bed they always lay in. These small things can bring floods of emotion without warning and it can help to take your time with them. You do not need to rush to clear everything away, but you also do not need to keep everything frozen forever so do it at your own pace.

Talking helps, but only if you talk to the right people as not everyone understands losing a pet.

My advice is to feel the pain and take time out to feel it fully, no matter how painful it is because this will lead to rapid healing. The worst thing you can do is push feelings away or bury them into work.

Other pet owners, support groups or even online communities can be helpful. Sharing stories about your loss keeps their memory alive and reminds you that your grief makes sense – because you care so much.

Routine is another important activity to do. When a pet dies your daily structure disappears along with them, so try to rebuild gentle routines even if they feel pointless at first. Go for the walks you used to take with them Get up at the same time, eat regularly. Grief drains energy and structure can provide more stability when things feel empty.

People ponder on if they should get another pet but for each person there is no correct answer. A new pet does not replace the one you lost for some and it should not be expected to. Sometimes bringing another animal into your life is healing and at other times it feels wrong and that is fine also.

In time the sharp pain softens. The love does not disappear but it changes. One day you will remember your dog or cat and smile instead of breaking down.

Authors final thoughts!

Loving your pet fully means accepting their loss is part of the deal.

This article is human written!

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